The don’ts of dressing for weddings
• DO dress up. Two people have invited you to witness and honour their marriage vows: that’s huge. The least you can do is look glamorous and decorative in their wedding album.
• DO wear something upbeat. A wedding is a celebration of love. Asymmetric, experimental Belgian tailoring in charcoal felt does not send the right message.
• DON’T wear anything too obviously foxy. You’re there to applaud and cheerlead, not to try and steal the limelight. Sorry, but this is not the moment to exercise your Slutwalk principles. Too much cleavage, too short, too tight etc looks unsisterly and attention-seeking.
• DO read the invitation closely for dress code and dress code clues. An evening reception in a city restaurant requires a totally different look from an afternoon in a country church.
• DON’T get hung up on outdated traditions. If Samantha Cameron can go hatless to the royal wedding, you don’t have to wear a hat to Cousin Brian’s nuptials if you don’t want to, whatever your mum might think. (Maybe you can compromise on a silk flower.)
• DO go ahead and ask the bride, or one of her close friends, if you’re unsure if they’d mind you wearing white. Some brides do, some don’t – if you’re not sure, check. Do not, however, leave this call until the morning of the wedding when the inner-circle will be, shall we say, a bit busy.